There’s a phrase that can instantly make me lose respect for anyone and it is, “I’m not a feminist”. I don’t care why, I don’t care who, I hear those words and my respect-o-meter just drops about a billion degrees. I do tend towards hyperbole, but not in this case. All I think when people say this is “ugh” and while it’s annoying when guys do it, I’ve sadly come to accept that few guys will identify themselves as such, which is yet another thing we can thank the patriarchy for, because God forbid a “real” man identify with or as anything that sounds remotely “girly”.
But when a woman pulls this “look at how advanced I am, rejecting feminism” bullshit. Just…I am only made up of ugh and argh and wtf and what is the matter with you??
Do you believe men and women are inherently equal and neither should have more rights, freedoms, privileges than the other?
Then you’re a feminist.
Do you believe people shouldn’t be discriminated against no matter their gender, race, sexual orientation, et cetera?
Then you’re a feminist.
Feminism is not about pushing down men and elevating women (yes, there are some who identify as feminist and tend towards the man-hating spectrum, but as with any group, there are extremists and they are the minority). It is about striving for equality between all and fighting back against the patriarchy, which by the way, hurts us all. Men included.
The way men are ridiculed if they aren’t “macho” enough? Blame the patriarchy.
The way boys aren’t supposed to show too much emotion, wear pink, cry, play with “girl” toys, et cetera? Blame the patriarchy.
The way male rape is not only not taken seriously, but used as a socially-acceptable, usually prison-themed, joke? Blame the goddamn patriarchy.
If any of these things piss you off or you feel strongly that equality is the goal between all humans, then you are most likely a feminist.
If you don’t want to label yourself, fine, do what you want, but rejecting this specific label on the grounds that “you love men” or “you’re humanist” or “you don’t want to be called a feminazi” (which, tangential rant, how the fuck is wanting equality between genders on par with committing genocide???? So much rage-vomit!) or something along these lines, you may think you’re sounding evolved, but all I, and most feminists I know, hear is pure ignorance of the facts and the movement itself.
And as for those that think we don’t need feminism any more because we are equal now?